Our New Baby Girl

I realize it’s been a while since I’ve been able to write much on here. Things have been rather busy preparing for our new baby. Now that she’s here, it may take me a bit to transition back into writing again. Anyway, I just wanted to show you our new little addition, Katie Rose!
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While my plans for a home-birth didn’t go as planned I’m still so thankful for a healthy baby girl. I ended up having over 13 hours of horrific back labor and we weren’t able to get the baby turned. I ended up having a c-section which may just have saved the baby’s life. She was quite wedged in the birth canal.
I still firmly believe in home birth and in VBACs for those with a previous cesarean. Even though I didn’t get my VBAC I’m glad I was able to give it my best effort. Plus, I loved having a midwife care for me throughout my pregnancy. I wouldn’t have it any other way!

VBAC Information: International Cesarean Awareness Network (ICAN)

Talking to Pregnant Women

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Talking to a Pregnant Woman
From the perspective of one in their 9th month
(this is me with one month left to go)

There’s something about being pregnant that elicits all kinds of conversations from both friends and strangers. Personally, I enjoy talking with others about being pregnant and welcome their friendliness. The first things everyone asks are:
-Do you know if it’s a boy or a girl?  And
-Do you have names picked out?

Since we don’t get ultrasounds (due to their uncertain safety and since they’re usually not needed) we aren’t finding out the sex of the baby so I don’t usually have much to say as far as that goes. Also, since we aren’t telling what names we’re thinking of I don’t have much of a response about that either.

So, beyond these usual two questions, here are some thoughts I’ve had about how to communicate with a woman who’s pregnant:

Something I personally like to hear about is the birth experiences of others. It’s important though not to be too negative and to try to keep a positive attitude about labor and parenting as well. Pregnant moms need all the encouragement they can get. Labor is portrayed negatively enough in the media, the poor woman doesn’t need any more things to worry about. I’m afraid I haven’t always been good about this myself. I had a very hard first labor and have learned that I need to be cautious about sharing my experience with someone who’s pregnant. I firmly believe that birth can be an empowering time for a woman and that her body is fully capable of accomplishing the amazing feat of childbirth. Women need to hear more of that.

“You must be due anytime!” or “I think you’re going to go early.” These comments have the potential to put a false hope in the woman. I have been told this throughout the last month and a half! It made me feel like I would honestly go early (which I haven’t) which makes me feel like I’m “late” even before the due date comes! This has been pretty hard on me emotionally and made it hard to be patient. The truth is that most women go “late” and that’s completely normal. Technically someone isn’t even late until they’re 42 weeks! So, even if the woman seems ready to burst, you should probably keep that thought to yourself.

“You look absolutely radiant!” I’ve been told this about 3 times and I can’t tell you what it’s meant to me! Even though I love having a pregnant shape (not everyone loves that) I can still sometimes feel rather unattractive. It’s definitely more encouraging than “you’ve gotten HUGE!” If you see something beautiful about your pregnant friend, let her know. It will make her day! I know it made mine!

Finally, encourage those who are pregnant to REST. With a world that tells us, “Go, go go” and “do do do” it can be hard to feel free to take a break. Pregnancy takes an incredible toll on a woman’s body and she NEEDS to take it easy. If you have some time, offer to help her out. She can always say “no” but the thought will still be much appreciated. It will show her that someone notices her and realizes pregnancy (while a very happy time) can also be a very tiring time. 

Veggies for Baby

While reading the other day I confirmed something I’ve always suspected but never looked into. My assumption was that what I eat while pregnant/nursing will set the stage for what my baby will prefer later. Research at the Monell Chemical Senses Center indicates that babies adjusted to foods quicker when they had been introduced to them before they were born. I guess this gives me one more motivation for eating healthily!
Once baby starts eating you can help them to like veggies by not giving in when they make a face or turn away from them. Research shows that if you keep trying to give it to them they will take it. With our daughter Emma we had her eat whatever we were eating. We would put portions of our dinner into a little hand-cranked baby food grinder. It was convenient to just throw the grinder in the diaper bag when we went out and made eating at home easier too because we didn’t have to warm up something special for her.

Source: Want to Raise a Fruit-and-Veggie Lover? Be Persistent

Pregnancy Sickness

I apologize for my absence on here lately. I’ve been fighting horrible pregnancy sickness. Thankfully though, things have gotten much better. A midwife friend recommended I take milk-thistle supplements to help with the nausea and boy was I glad she did! While they have not eliminated all nausea, they have helped greatly! I was at the point where I wasn’t able to do ANYthing. All I could do was curl up in a ball and be miserable. While I still can’t stand to cook food, I am much more active and not in endless misery.

image I recently read a great book called, “Pregnancy Sickness: Using Your Body’s Natural Defenses to Protect Your Baby-to-Be” by Margie Profet. This book explains how my food aversions are a way of protecting my unborn baby from potential toxins. I’d always seen food aversions and nausea in the first trimester as just a royal pain that had to be endured. I’m much relieved to learn that this sickness actually serves a purpose! Reading the book also helped to eliminate my guilt over not being able to eat a huge variety of foods right now. I highly, highly recommend you read this book if you are planning on getting pregnant or if you’re newly pregnant! Seriously!

Safety of Ultrasound

With my first pregnancy my midwife recommended that we stay away from ultrasounds. At the time I wasn’t sure why but I trusted her judgment and wasn’t that concerned with knowing the baby’s sex anyway. Now that I’m pregnant again I started investigating ultrasound to see what the issue is. What I found confirms the concerns of my midwife.

It turns out there is a strong correlation between ultrasounds and autism. I always thought vaccinations were to blame for this but the evidence is quite convincing that ultrasounds play a large part in the problem of autism. Despite Thimerosal being removed from vaccines the rates for autism are still increasing. Interestingly, there is a higher rate of autism among twins. Usually mothers carrying multiple babies are scanned more frequently. This doesn’t sound like a coincidence to me. There is enough evidence regarding the harmful effects of ultrasound to keep me away from it. It’s a shame that women aren’t informed of the risks before they choose to have an ultrasound done. That’s the way our medical system works though. They aren’t always looking out for our best interests.

You can read about ultrasound in this article from Midwifery Today.

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